It’s What We Don’t Talk About
Americans are socialized not to speak about race. We are taught that discussions that involve race are taboo. White people do not talk about race because they are afraid they will say the wrong thing and prove themselves to be racist. Or, they are afraid that...
Being Vulnerable = Strength and Courage
Many of us have been taught a dysfunctional view of what it means to be strong and courageous. We teach our boys that being strong means never crying and never acknowledging their feelings with the exception of anger, of course. Real men don't cry or show pain. They...
What is True Courage?
There are different ways of viewing "courage". To some, courage is appearing fearless, strong and invincible when faced with conflict. To me, courage is more about being willing to acknowledge my fears and show my vulnerability. This is the courage that's necessary to...
Fear is the Root of Evil – Part Two
What would happen if we looked past the delusions created by our fear? An article in the New York Times on December 31, 2009, A Mideast Bond, Stitched of Pain and Healing, demonstrates this. The article describes the friendships developed between an Israeli boy,...
The Shoe Makers Children Go Without Shoes
Many of the clients I work with are from nonprofit organizations - people in some form of helping/service profession. One of the themes that run through the work I do with individual coaching clients or when working in groups is: helpers give to others without taking...
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