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33-Stand Firm

Be strong then, and enter into your own body;
there you have a solid place for your feet.
Think about it carefully!
Don’t go off somewhere else!

just throw away all thoughts of
imaginary things,
and stand firm in that which you are. -Kabir

Sometimes the hardest thing to do is stand firm. This has been a challenge for me recently. I have been learning how to listen to my heart instead of simply my head, learning how to accept and honor my own needs without feeling obligated to explain or justify them to anyone else, learning to say “no” to stepping off center because of “shoulds” or guilt, and to stand firm in my own sense of integrity.

I had a real physical sense of how this feels in a yoga class the other day. We were doing chair pose which involves bending your knees with your weight on your heels and sitting back as if in a chair, with your thighs as parallel to the floor as possible and your arms stretched out. The only way to maintain balance in that pose is to keep your weight centered and to stand firm even though you are sitting. I used to hate that pose but as I came to understand it as a practice for standing firm and being grounded in my own sense of self, I have come to love it.

Are you standing firm in your own integrity or are you allowing yourself to step off center?