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10-Speak the Truth

Speak, your lips are free.Speak, it is your own tongue.Speak, it is your own body.Speak, your life is still yours.See how in the blacksmith’s shopThe flame burns wild, the iron glows red;The locks open their jaws,And every chain begins to break.Speak, this brief hour is long enoughBefore the death of body and tongue:Speak, ’cause the truth is not dead yet,Speak, speak, whatever you must speak.-Faiz Ahmad Faiz

Clients often come to me because they find themselves struggling over how to engage another in a “difficult” conversation. They know they need to have the conversation but find themselves held back because of fear. It is only when they are able to realize how much more empowered and energized they will feel if they speak what “[they] must speak,” that they find the courage and the words to engage the other person.

How many times do you find yourself wanting to say something but squelching it? Is it fear of saying something stupid? Fear of hurting someone‘s feelings? Fear of getting someone angry?

How many times have you found yourself standing in your truth and speaking your mind? Not to hurt or anger another yet not holding back even knowing that that might be a possibility?

Which feels better?