It is true
I was created in you.
It is also true
That you were created for me.
I owned your voice
It was shaped and tuned to soothe me.
Your arms were molded
Into a cradle to hold me, to rock me.
The scent of your body was the air
Perfumed for me to breathe.
During those early, dearest days.
I did not dream that you had
A large life which included me,
For I had a life
Which was only you.
-Maya Angelou, Mother: A Cradle to Hold Me
A little over two years ago, my ex-husband and I drove our daughter to begin her freshmen year of college. I had eagerly awaited this day when my freedom would begin. I scoffed when the college provided a session on â€œLetting Goâ€ for the parents of Read more
“Last night as I was sleeping,
â€¨I dreamtâ€”marvelous error!â€”
that I had a beehive â€¨here inside
my heart.â€¨ And the golden bees
were making white combs â€¨and
sweet honeyâ€¨ from my old
Why are we so afraid of failure? As toddlers, we lost our balance and fell, over and over until we learned to walk. One isnâ€™t possible without the other.
Failure is one of the best ways we learn â€“ as long as we can make honey from it. Think of a recent failure you have experienced. Go to sleep tonight and request the golden bees of your heart and spirit to find a way to turn it into sweet honey.
â€œâ€™Noâ€™” is a complete sentence.â€
â€• Anne Lamott
I have written in the past about the value of saying â€œyesâ€ to new ideas, experiences and perspectives. As with anything, however, there is always the other side of the coin: the value of saying â€œno.â€
Many of my coaching clients, find themselves overworked, overwhelmed and completely exhausted. All too often, this is because they don’t say â€œno.â€ They need to be able to say, â€œno, my plate is already fullâ€ or â€œno, I can’t do that now, but I could do it with additional staff/funding/time [etc.].â€
Often, it is women leaders in mission-driven organizations who find it most difficult to set boundaries at work Read more
About a year ago, I decided to try to live my life similar to the way improv actors practice their art. In improv, this means saying â€œyes andâ€ – never disagreeing with your fellow actor and instead accepting their ideas and adding to them.
My approach is a little different in that my goal was to say â€œyesâ€ when I might otherwise have automatically said, â€œnoâ€ â€“ â€œNo, that â€˜s not the kind of person I am,â€ or â€œNo, I don’t like things like that,â€ or â€œNo, thatâ€™s not the way I do things,â€ or â€œNo, thatâ€™s not the way I see things,â€ and perhaps most importantly, â€œNo, Iâ€™m not comfortable with thatâ€ or â€œNo, that feels risky.â€ Read more
Hoarding your joys and despairs
As if they were clothes
You brought but never wore
Look at this bright shirt:
A possibility you glimpsed
But feared to seize.
The beloved is waiting.
You have a date.
Put on that shirt before it fades.â€
-Gregory Orr, from How Beautiful the Beloved
Do you have dreams that youâ€™re hoarding and keeping hidden away in your closet? Are there opportunities that you see by allow to pass you by?
Take the New Year as your chance to go ahead, put on the bright shirts of your dreams, and try on the outfits of possibilities that are all around you.
Wishing you peace, joy and bright clothes of all kinds in the New Year!